The drill sergeant still looms large
Before I knew I had pneumonia, I had recorded a podcast--even though it was a little hard to breathe. The irony is that the podcast is about how my drill sergeant tells me I have to be productive at all costs.
Saying no is self-care
Because masking, A.K.A. faking or fawning, is a neurospicy characteristic, and masking leads to meltdowns and crashing and burning, it's important to learn how to say no. Even though it will be agonizingly painful and against your nature to do so. It is important that you save your precious psychological energy.
The two resources you may be undervaluing
Most people understand the value of money, whether or not that results in treating it as a valuable resource. The amount of our salary, whether we get raises, bonuses, and…
Fear of feeling
It takes practice, naming and acknowledging your feelings. Most of us don't have a strong feeling vocabulary. It can help to have a list of feelings, which you can easily find on the internet. Better yet, this is what therapists do best: help you articulate what you're feeling so that you can finally let the feelings go.Because ironically, preventing yourself from feeling is what makes you stuck. And feeling your feelings is what will set you free. And I want you to be free.
Why you need a first aid self-soothing kit
I always tell clients to put a self-soothing tool kit together, so I figured I better practice what I preach. And I have to admit, I'm excited about the next time I get dysregulated and get to play with it!
Self-care is disaster preparedness
Many people think self-care is indulging yourself with bubble baths, spa visits, and getting your eyebrows waxed. It's not. I mean, maybe a bubble bath and a massage can be part of a self-care routine, but it's much more basic and essential than that. It is not pampering. It is necessary for survival.