How comparison hurts you
While thoughts and feelings about comparison are inevitable, it's helpful to see how comparisons get processed by Anxiety, the Drill Sergeant, and the Inner Critic.
The two resources you may be undervaluing
Most people understand the value of money, whether or not that results in treating it as a valuable resource. The amount of our salary, whether we get raises, bonuses, and…
Fear of feeling
It takes practice, naming and acknowledging your feelings. Most of us don't have a strong feeling vocabulary. It can help to have a list of feelings, which you can easily find on the internet. Better yet, this is what therapists do best: help you articulate what you're feeling so that you can finally let the feelings go.Because ironically, preventing yourself from feeling is what makes you stuck. And feeling your feelings is what will set you free. And I want you to be free.
Why you need a first aid self-soothing kit
I always tell clients to put a self-soothing tool kit together, so I figured I better practice what I preach. And I have to admit, I'm excited about the next time I get dysregulated and get to play with it!